Sponsored Rider, Pam
Cultivating Confidence November 16 2019
Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace
Those words are the beginning of a poem by Amelia Earhart that I read every morning when I was 17 years of age and learning to fly. It’s what motivated me, a girl from the wrong side of the tracks to get up and show up every day, ready to learn.
Long story short, I got my pilots licence just after my 18thbirthday – before I learnt how to drive – and met the love of my life, my husband of almost 20 years. A life was born, simply by reading those words.
But as I have aged, started a family and learnt that I do not bounce, that courage has somewhat disappeared, and just the thought of getting in the saddle, something I have loved since a child, fills me with fear.
I know many of us struggle with our confidence as we age – so what can we do about it?
Having a supportive network is crucial to success. A supportive instructor and family who can help drive you and help you to find your confidence is invaluable.
There is also a number of fantastic confidence courses out there. I have personally joined Joyride run by my friend Jane Pike to help me cultivate confidence. Look for a program that really speaks to you.
And the last and biggest hurdle in between you and being a confident rider is commitment. I am classic for deciding I just can’t do it today, and the more time out of the saddle, the greater my hesitation becomes. Set yourself a simple task and do it! Mine is bum in the saddle. I am super lucky that Zeus tends to wander off when my bum hits the saddle and all of a sudden, I have to gather up my reins and ride. Which reminds me how much I love being up there – then I don’t want to get off.
I’m also making another commitment as I begin my journey to courage and confidence. Just as I did every morning before I got in an aeroplane and flew, I will read Amelia’s poem and find the courage so that those beautiful experiences you can only have in the saddle actually happen.
Courage is the price that Life exact for granting peace.
The soul that knows it not
Knows no release from little things:
Knows not the livid loneliness of fear,
Nor mountain heights where bitter
joy can hear
The sound of wings.
How can life grant us boon of living,
For dull gray ugliness and pregnant
Unless we dare
The soul's dominion? Each time we
make a choice, we pay
With courage to behold the resistless
And count it fair.
How do you find confidence in the saddle? Share your tips!
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Preparing for Fire 🔥 November 04 2018
Firstly, a disclaimer, I am in no way an expert of bushfires, or our horse’s behaviours in them, but the below is what I have noticed owning horses in a bushfire prone areas and these tips might just help.
Have a fire plan! I cannot stress this enough, but have a plan in place. As someone who is on agistment, I have two fire plans. One that the property has, and then one that I have. Generally agistment ones will cover everything you need, but you know your own horse and if he is likely to panic, load on the float easily etc. Ours is below as an example.
Zeus’ fire plan.
Get in touch with your local fire brigade, or local Facebook groups. We’re so lucky in Canberra to have this amazing community of equestrians. We have a Facebook group dedicated to equine emergencies, and the lovely people who run this regularly work with the local emergency services, and coordinate evacuations on the day. These groups have really helped me to keep up to date with what is going on, and how I can help. They have also provided fantastic advice also.
Quite a few of the local fire brigades will also hold sessions on large animal evacuations, so get in touch. If you are at a big agistment facility, see if they can come out and talk to you all, or perhaps organise a chat at your local adult riding club.
Get your horse loading well on the float! Zeus is not the biggest fan of the float by any stretch of the imagination. (Another blog post for another time), so we are trying to get him used to getting on the float quick smart. It’s well worth having a few fire drills, just to get them used to loading quickly! In the front of a fire, the last thing you want to find out is that your horse won’t load putting you both in danger.
Be prepared. During the midst of an emergency evacuation is not the time to be trying to find buckets, spare headstalls, feed etc. At the beginning of each fire season, get these items aside (in your float if you can) so once again you can just load your horse. As a minimum, you’ll need buckets for water, a basic first aid kit and a spare halter and lead rein. I make up my horses feeds in advance, so I can save time on the feed run after work, but also so I can just grab a bag and go.
Be realistic and ready for anything, including tough decisions Your plan is just that, a plan, and sometimes, things do not go to plan at all. Don’t risk your own life in the path of the fire if it all becomes too close. As you can see, step 5 in my fire plan is hope for the best. Fires move quickly, and I can’t risk my life, or the lives of my family to save Zeus. You can do everything you possibly can, but be aware of the conditions and ALWAYS take the advice of the emergency services in attendance, who are trained and know what is likely to happen.
Pam’s Top Tips To Returning To Riding As An Adult November 03 2018
1. Find a good riding school. After a few years out of the saddle, and a few bad habits long forgotten, it is a great idea to find a local riding school with lovely quiet horses and accredited instructors. Our bodies change as we get older (we certainly don’t bounce like we did as kids) and it provides us a chance to get our riding fitness back without being overly committed to looking after a horse full time.
2. Don’t rush finding your unicorn! When you are ready to make the commitment to buy your first horse as an adult rider, don’t rush it! Unfortunately, the horse world hasn’t changed that much, and there will be plenty of unsuitable mounts out there being advertised as something amazing. It took me almost 12 months to find my dork, and I’m so glad for every horse I called up about and didn’t see, or every horse I went to see and didn’t ride as it made it so much more special when I found him.
3. Be kind on yourself. You might be a career woman, you might be a wife, you might be a mother, the breadwinner, or a combination or all of the above. Some weeks you might barely get to see your horse, except as a silhouette in an otherwise dark feed run, or you may only ride a few times during winter; you have kids sports on the weekend, you have to work late, feed the kids etc, and this is completely OK! Don’t feel guilty because your horse is sitting in the paddock while you are living life, or feel pressured because others are able to ride every night. Their commitments are different to yours. Your horse is an opportunity to escape the day to day, and even a simple brush on the weekends will go a long way to keeping you and your horse happy. It’s about you and getting some ‘you’ time, or as my instructor says, ‘you do you’.
4. Embrace your new community. You are now a member of the returning to ride as adult’s club. That brings a lot of joy and with it, amazing new friends. I have found a lot of horsey friends online, in various social media groups, based around dressage and increasing rider confidence, as well as at local riding clubs, events and even work!
5. Remember why you loved the sport in the first place! What made you first fall in love with horses in the first place? Think back to that and feel that joy within you. That is why you are doing it now.